Hi Jim!
I use soft solder. Tin, not lead these days, but melts at low temperature. For a model like this, where there is no stress on the deadeyes or chain plates, soft solder is plenty strong. It also makes filing a lot easier! I find that Brass Black works fine. The trick is to degrease with acetone, etch with HCl (muriatic acid) and then only leave the part in the Brass Black for a short period. The longer the part sits in the blackening, the more likely the blackening will rub off. Use 2 or 3 washes with blackening to get it as dark as you'd like.